I've seen simon in Never Mind the Buzzclocks a few years ago. Back then there weren't so many videos on the Internet and I only vaguely remember him as the thin guy with the cute awkwardness.
It's not until my favourite blogger April recommended him that I find out this Do Nothing video on bilibili.I opened it up this morning and literally can't stop watching it. After the binge watching, I now offially announce that simon is my new favourite English cutie pie, the one before him was Mika the singer.
Anyway, the thing simon said about that the past is all your own story, you can't expect to change others and live in your ideal world happily ever after. The only thing you can change is yourself and your perspective on others. Totally on board with that.
I, too, is disabled humanbeing in social communication. There are always the uneasiness in me worrying about How to talk to others and appear normal to other. But I am still an introvert in the end. And I think I'm OK with that, even happy about it.
刷豆瓣看饼哥标记想看立马找来看的,不能更好,越来越喜欢gay了怎么办!内容本身足够好,能感觉到他对很多问题有足够的思考和特别的理解,在形式上,段子的结构也很立体,有层次,有很多意想不到的延时呼应的部分,也有一个印象深刻的讲到一半插入别的话题讲很远最后又给拽回来的曲折的故事。最重要的是,所有的这些段子都里是有他自己的。不仅仅是逗观众哈哈一笑,他有更多想表达的东西。好笑又心酸。(之后又找了法国的脱口秀来看,是很有名的演员,前面很长一段是在调侃自己的婚姻生活,大概是结婚十五年妻子很 tough之类的,可以成功嵌套到每一个结婚很久的中年男人身上;还有一个Madame的表演,也不是很吸引我看下去的那种。我在想,虽然我很喜欢巴黎,但可能在文化心理上,我并不比较偏向它,相比较之下,法国人好像确实更政治更公共生活一点,比较不容易袒露内心,或者呈现为一个脆弱的个体,也想起在电影Amour里,主演的Madame是一位钢琴老师,因为手术失败身体部分瘫痪了,她业已成名的学生来看望他委婉地表达了他的同情,这让她非常不高兴。扯远了.... anyway,life is tough,and do nothing.
《大英百科全书》对“黑色幽默”的解释是“一种绝望的幽默,力图引出人们的笑声,作为人类对生活中明显的无意义和荒谬的一种反响。”黑色幽默是一种用喜剧形式表现悲剧内容的文学方法。
放在今天各式各样的文化艺术表现形式中,黑色幽默的荒谬更加平民化和日常化,因为在物质丰富的今天,大多数人很少能感觉到真正的绝望,更多的是日复一日的厌倦和麻木。
我很长时间以来都无法理解“黑色幽默”,就像当初我也不太能理解周星驰的《喜剧之王》。我还记得小时候第一次听到《喜剧之王》这个名字,觉得这部片一定超好笑的,一定是周星驰的电影里最好笑的一部。
看完电影后,年少的我别说理解了,连几声笑也难以发出。后来很长时间我都没有再看第二遍了。我觉得它背叛了这个片名,背叛了我对它的期待。片子里的角色不是被嘲笑就是在社会底层苦苦挣扎,即使最后得到一个愉快的结局那些人物所经历的苦困也让我笑不出来。那时,是我第一次脑子里出现了类似喜剧是什么?喜剧有多少种?这样的问题。
我不是一个不懂幽默的人,我相信喜剧的力量,幽默是我常用的一种社交和表达手段,身边的朋友也常常被我逗笑。而且我接触的喜剧越多就越能认同那句话——“喜剧的本质来源于悲剧”。我或许无法将这句话很系统地解释好,但我认同的是,能引起共鸣的喜剧绝对比只靠扮丑来逗观众发笑的喜剧来得有价值。
有一段时间我特别痴迷看欧美的单口喜剧(Stand-up),从这两年在华人圈爆红的亚裔Ali Wong到家喻户晓的Jerry Seinfeld。当你看得够多,你一定会惊讶于单口喜剧的风格和题材之多,有些特别黄暴,有些讽刺政治,还有些用日常小事作为段子素材。看多以后,我发现好的单口得洞悉生活中的痛点,有时还得角度刁钻,才能在赢得阵阵笑声之余让观众产生共鸣。
但能让观众在大笑之余同时感到内心阵阵刺痛的,大概只有Simon Amstell了。外媒评论Simon的单口是“如果不笑的话就会哭出来”,他的幽默是一种疼痛幽默(painfully funny)。
他常常拿他内向腼腆的性格作为素材,他在名为《顺其自然》(《Do Nothing》)的单口中就大篇幅地描述他的孤独感以及一场无果的单恋,以及因为他的性格所作出种种引人发笑的行为。他在别人享受当下的时候,一边焦虑一边试图融入,在机会面前却没能成功约暗恋对象出去约会。但Simon却也不软弱,他的语言风格算得上是毒舌了,不求杀伤范围大只求直击要害那种。简单点说,就是精准吐槽。但他吐槽得最多的偏偏是他自己——《麻木》(《Numb》)中,Simon描述了他跟他前男友分手的情形。他吐槽被甩后自己连哭都要考虑各种环境因素才能“安排上”,甚至连感受痛苦的空隙都不给自己,而是处于职业习惯第一时间把事情记录下来好当作素材用。
只要你看得够仔细,不难发现其实Simon的作品都是大量反思现实和自省的产物。就像《麻木》这个名字,正是以自己的麻木作为出发点,思考人们对待自身感受的方式以及社会操纵人们感受的方式,从而命名的。
那为什么说Simon Amstell的喜剧伴随着伤感呢?那是因为,他的题材都是在说他自己的经历,而那些经历要是不用这种幽默的方式说出来,他的单口将会是一个个让人心疼伤感的故事。加上单口喜剧这种表演方式,观众与故事里的当事人面对面,这要比那种“我从朋友那里听回来”的故事更能让观众投入。
我不能说Simon Amstell的喜剧所有人都能喜欢,就像电影一样,有人喜欢细腻的文艺片,但有人只爱看爆米花爽片。Simon的喜剧正是那种细腻的文艺片,私密,坦诚,像你和交心的朋友在聊天中渡过了一个夜晚。
Simon在BBC纪录片《单口喜剧的艺术》中说过,他并不希望过于迎合观众的喜好,泛泛而谈说了一晚上笑话,观众一开始可能会觉得很好笑,但过后他们就会意识到那都不是什么值得记住的东西。Simon显然想要的不仅仅是观众的笑声,他想要“更多”。所以他用最接近艺术的方式来表达喜剧,而观众则可以从喜剧中看到Simon Amstell。
为什么我说Simon Amstell的喜剧是“艺术”?
因为商业是为了迎合市场,而艺术是为了表达自己。
Simon的喜剧说实在有时真的没那么好笑,心疼的感觉很容易让我忽略掉那些精心设计的笑料,但我就是忍不住一遍一遍的看,特别是在我特别低落的时候。因为看Simon的喜剧,让我觉得,原来有人看待生活的方式跟我如此相似,有和我一样的烦恼,但他说得好好笑啊,哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈——况且,他每一次都会在最后留下一个充满希望生活未完待续的结尾。或许我在看的途中有那么几次笑着落泪,擦一擦眼泪又继续笑,但我更多的是感到治愈。他的喜剧像是在和我对话,让我感到没那么孤独。
我想Simon真的做到了用一场单口喜剧使他和观众都获得了在笑声以外的更多。
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Ladies and gentlemen,
please will you welcome onto the stage
Simon Amstell!
Hello.
Thank you.
How are you? Are you okay? You all right?
Well, this is fun, isn't it?
This is sort of a fun thing to be doing.
This is fun. It's fun, right?
I'm quite lonely. Let's start with that.
Nothing can be done about it,
people of Dublin. Nothing can be done.
I bought a new flat about two years ago.
In this flat, in the bathroom,
there are two sinks.
I thought that would bring me some joy.
It is a constant reminder.
And so what I've had to do...
This is what I'm doing now in my life.
I'm actually doing this.
I'm using both sinks.
I now, every day,
brush my teeth in the left sink,
and in the right one, mainly cry.
I think the problem comes from the inability
to be purely in the moment without fear.
I think we're all stuck in the past,
and looking to the future.
And it's in the moment where true joy exists.
It's in the moment where love can occur.
It's only in the moment where
you can be fully at one with the universe.
I was in Paris recently,
with a new group of people,
one of which was quite a sort of
kooky, interesting girl,
although, in hindsight, not that interesting.
I always get fooled.
I always think, "Oh, she seems fascinating."
Is she, Simon?
Or does she just have short hair?
Completely fascinated, and I'm thinking,
"Oh, I'll talk to her for the rest of my life."
Bored after 10 minutes.
"You should grow your hair
and stop misleading people."
So she suggests,
at about 3:00 in the morning,
that we all run up the Champs-Elysee,
to the Arc de Triomphe.
And I guess telling you about that now,
it sounds a little bit exciting and fun,
but at the time, I just thought,
"Well, why would we do that?"
And then, "What's the point?"
And then, "When we get there,
then what will we do with our lives?"
And I'm sort of analysing
what the point of it is,
and, "We live that way,
and it seems a long way to go."
And everyone else is just not analysing,
they're just running,
and I'm running as well,
because of the peer pressure,
because I'm fun.
And we're all running and running,
and everyone else, I think,
is just at one with the moment,
at one with joy, at one with the universe,
and I'm there, as I'm running, thinking,
"Well, this'll probably make a good memory."
Which is living in the future,
discussing the past with someone
who, if they asked you,
"Oh, what did it feel like?",
"I don't know,
I was thinking about what I'd say to you."
I think it comes from childhood.
When you're a child, you're free.
You're purely in the moment.
You're not worried.
It doesn't even occur to you
what other people might think of you.
You don't analyse every moment.
You just live, moment to moment.
And then something happens
where you realise
you have to think before you act.
We get taught we have to think
before we act.
When I was 15...
And this happened when I was 15,
but I think it's too odd a story if I was 15,
so I think it's better if we say I was 11.
I was in my grandparents' house,
and I used to have quite a good relationship
with my grandma.
She used to really validate me and my life.
I used to do little drawings and doodles,
and she'd say, "Oh, that's nice."
I'd do another drawing, "Oh, that's nice."
Another drawing, "Oh, that's nice."
And at one point, I distrusted
the consistency of her reviews.
So I did a deliberately bad drawing
to see what she would say.
She said, "Oh, that's nice."
And I thought, "I can't deal
with this inauthentic sycophant."
So one day... And I know now that I did this
because I wanted to do something
where she couldn't validate it,
where she couldn't say, "Oh, that's nice."
But when I did it, it was purely unconscious,
it was purely in the moment.
One day, I ran up to my grandma,
and I mooned my grandma.
Well, I was only 11. I'm just 11.
It wasn't even like a cheeky, playful
little moon and run away, funny, funny.
It was a violent bend-over,
"Here's my arsehole, Grandma,"
and apparently a bit of balls as well,
a little bit of balls.
She didn't say, "Oh, that's nice."
Although I think she wanted to
because she's generous and encouraging.
She just couldn't quite get there
with my arsehole in her face.
She ended up saying, "Oh, okay."
But still encouraging, still a sort of,
"Oh, I see what you were going for."
So that's why I can't enjoy Paris.
I did fall in love about five years ago.
Fell in love five years ago,
but with somebody I invented,
which isn't ideal.
And he was based on
somebody who existed,
but because I had such low self-esteem,
I took every negative attribute
I felt about myself,
converted those into positive attributes
and projected those onto him.
Thus he would heal me
and complete me in my life.
Initially, I just liked him
because he was really thin.
I really liked that.
Like, thinner than me, ill-thin.
I don't know why I liked that.
I just liked the idea I could
go on a date with someone
and it could be their last date.
A lot of it is narcissism, really.
My type... I realised my type is me, but better.
Which I think is okay.
I just need to find somebody
who wants himself,
but much, much worse.
I went to see him in this play that he was in,
and he was really vulnerable on stage,
and I really like...
Vulnerability, to me, is quite
sexually appealing. I don't know if you...
Like, you know there are people
who are more like,
"Well, we know what we're doing.
"We've done it before, we'll do it again.
Everything's fine."
To me, it's much more sexy
if someone's a bit more,
"Oh, I feel faint." You know?
It's hot, right? So...
I went to see this play on the press night
so I could perhaps meet him afterwards -
and weeks had been building up
to this moment -
and all I could manage when I saw him
at the party was a kind of polite nod.
And I don't know if he saw it.
He didn't nod back.
And then I felt awkward
about approaching him at all.
And an hour went past,
and I couldn't approach him.
And then I saw him leave.
I saw him leave the theatre,
his rucksack on his back,
his little beanie hat on his head,
and as he got further and further away,
it became harder and harder to move,
and he was gone, gone.
Three weeks go by of sadness, pain, regret.
I've turned him into the only person
I can possibly be with in my life.
A lot of it was ego.
I just felt like he was going
to become a great actor.
He could make people cry.
And I could become a great comedian,
and make people laugh.
And if we were together...
...we could be like a two-man Robin Williams.
All the talent of Robin Williams,
but in two separate thin men.
I didn't know how I was going
to meet him again.
And then I was in a shop in Covent Garden
that sells vintage clothing,
and he was there in the shop.
I felt, in that moment,
that God had brought us together.
I don't feel that now so much because it feels
like the thought of a deluded moron, and...
And I don't want to attack religious people
who may be here this evening.
It feels like a sort of unkind thing to do,
to attack religious people, and it feels...
You know, it feels too easy,
and like the battle's already been won, and...
No, but...
But really, it just feels rude.
Like, if you're at a party and someone says,
you know, you get into a conversation
and someone says,
"I'm a Christian, I'm a Muslim, I'm a Jew,"
it's very rude there to say,
"Oh, how ridiculous!"
I feel, at this point, we have to treat people
with kindness and love and respect,
in the same way you treat a child running
around a party saying, "I'm a helicopter."
Say to them... Say, "Good for you!
We're all having fun! I'm a choo-choo train!"
I'm not an atheist.
Like, I'm a big fan of Jesus Christ.
There's nobody more thin or vulnerable
than Jesus Christ.
And he's bleeding as well.
It's very clever of them.
But I'm not an atheist for this reason.
This is the main reason I'm not an atheist.
I think I'm God a bit, and here's why.
And that's the sort of thing I can say here
but I can't really say at a dinner party,
because people will say, "Well,
why have you got hummus on your chin?"
Because it's sort of seemingly arrogant
and blasphemous.
I don't think it's blasphemous.
Speaking as God, I'm not offended.
But I feel...
He... That actor was in that shop
at the same time as me.
I don't believe in coincidence.
I think coincidence is a word we invented
for something we don't quite understand yet.
On the cover of this book is a blue feather,
because the characterlauthor of this book
believes in the philosophy
"thinking makes it so.
"We create our own reality."
He tests this by visualising a blue feather
in his fingers.
He believes, like Buddhists,
that everything has already been achieved.
Time is an illusion.
So if he feels he has
the blue feather already,
it will come to him
because there's nothing opposing that idea.
Later in the book, the blue feather appears.
I tested this myself with a white feather.
I felt I had the white feather in my fingers.
Not that I needed the white feather
or desired the white feather,
it had already been achieved.
Later, I was at a picnic,
I put my hand in a packet of crisps,
which is something I wouldn't normally do.
I pulled out a crisp with a white feather on.
Which is disgusting.
But there he was in the shop.
And I don't know how you feel.
Maybe you think,
"Well, he walked into that shop
"at the same time as you with his own legs."
No, I put him in that shop with my God-mind.
Now, some people will say, "Well, you know,
if we do create our own reality,
"what about the Holocaust?
What about victims of child abuse?
"Do they create that in their world?"
And the thing you have to understand
about that is...
Shh!
For whatever reason he was in that shop,
I knew I had to approach him,
because this was a moment,
and I couldn't have any more regret.
Um, I also knew I couldn't go up to him
with my personality.
I don't know if you can tell fully,
from the tone of my voice,
this is not a voice that lends itself
to getting sex or relationships.
What you need is a less anxious,
a cooler voice.
Like, I don't know why there's still
so much anxiety in my life.
The other day, a guy approached me,
and I wasn't sure if I'd met him before or not,
and in the panic of the moment,
I just said, "I've got that jumper."
And I didn't.
I went out with someone...
I went out with someone for quite a while
who wasn't that keen on that aspect
of my personality.
And we were in a supermarket together,
and a friend of his, who I hadn't met before,
approached us,
and because I hadn't met this guy before,
I got instantly nervous.
The friend says, "Oh, what are you up to?"
And I say, "Oh, a bit of shopping.
We've got a pineapple."
An hour passes, and then the boyfriend
says to me, "What's wrong with you?
"Why do you always have to...
"Why do you always have to try
to be so funny all the time?"
I said, "Well, it wasn't funny, it was factual."
I said, "There was a pineapple."
He said, "You deliberately chose
the most humorous object in the trolley."
"Well, I'm gifted."
So awkward all the time,
a ridiculous way to be.
But there's this feeling of,
even though I believe that we're all one,
I still feel a constant detachment,
even with people who I'm close to.
Like, my mum and I have got
a good relationship,
but there's a detachment, there's
an inauthenticity to every conversation.
I feel like I should be able
to tell her anything,
but there's a sort of awkwardness to it,
on the phone.
And I think it's because I came
out of her vagina, and that's...
That's sort of always there, you know?
"Oh, have you done
your council tax, Simon?"
"Mum, I came out of your vagina.
"Let's not pretend
that's a normal thing to have happened."
"I came out of your vagina, I sucked
on your tits, you want to talk about tax?"
And my grandma as well,
whom I got on with quite well,
still, an awkwardness,
I think because my mum came out of her,
I came out of my mum,
it's like a Russian-doll awkwardness.
I didn't want to be that person any more.
I didn't want to be that guy
in front of this actor.
In my ideal world, I would have been able
to go up to him, and just say,
"Hey, how are you?
I saw your play the other week. It was great."
"Oh, thank you. Oh, of course.
I remember the nod."
"Why are you crying?"
"I've got too many sinks."
"I don't know why,
but I feel I need to ask you
"if you'd like to go and get some coffee
with me or a juice or something, and...
"And I don't know, maybe if that works out,
we could move to the country together."
"Okay, well, let me just purchase
this effortlessly cool cardigan
"and we can talk to an estate agent."
Here's what actually happened.
Because of my personality.
I saw him there, he hadn't seen me.
He was about a metre away from me.
There, that thin.
And what I thought... For some reason, what
I thought would be really cool and seductive
would be to just stand
in the middle of the shop
and shout his full name.
He turned round, alarmed.
I could see the terror in his eyes,
but because I'd started at a certain volume,
I thought it'd be too odd to get any quieter.
So I'm then just shouting about
the good reviews this play has had
and he's going,
"Oh, I don't really read reviews."
And he's all timid and vulnerable,
which is why I love him.
And I think the difference between us,
because I think we were both
quite shy as children...
I say, "I think" - I did a lot of research on him.
But he retained that shyness,
and it makes him beautiful and sensitive,
and I decided shyness
was something to be overcome,
and I think it's in our training.
He went to a really good
acting school in London
where he was taught to nourish
his sensitivity, to nurture his vulnerability,
and that's what makes him a great actor.
I went to Saturday-morning stage school
in Essex,
where we were taught that whether we were
singing, dancing or acting, just do it loud.
So I didn't become good
at any of those things.
But when I danced, people heard.
So I'm there, still shouting at him.
And I realise I've got to make some sort
of lasting connection with him.
I ask, it occurs to me to ask,
"You must be very busy at the moment,
but do you have a night off?"
He says, "I have Monday nights off."
"I know a very cool club night
that happens on Mondays."
It's very cool to me,
'cause it's such a contrast
to the Essex nightclub I went to
for three years, in Romford.
Three years, between the ages of 18 and 21.
Three years, every Saturday night,
in Romford.
Three years, every Saturday night,
in Romford.
Three years.
Because nobody told me
that London was close.
And you had to wear black trousers to get in,
black shoes, an un-tucked shirt,
and I don't like it when the dress code
is "basic dick".
I think it's restricting.
One time, I don't know
if I was being rebellious
or if I just thought it would be okay,
I wore black trainers.
I thought that would be all right.
And the bouncer looked at me and said,
"You can't come in like that.
"You look like you've come from a gym."
Which gym do I look like I've come from?
He's such a basic human being,
to him there's only two forms of dress,
club and gym.
I remember the last time I went there.
I think I was 21, and I threw up.
I used to throw up there quite a lot,
'cause I used to drink a lot
'cause I wasn't happy.
I don't want to judge you
if you're drinking tonight,
but you know it's 'cause
you're not happy, right? You know...
"We'll have a good old... We're all right,
we'll have a couple of drinks
"and then pay for laughter. We're fine."
I was trying to get to the toilet,
and I didn't make it.
I threw up on the dance floor.
I looked at what I'd done, and I was pleased.
I thought, "That's what you deserve.
That should be your logo."
But now I was in London,
talking to this actor,
and I suggested this wonderful
avant-garde club on a Monday night,
which he hadn't heard of,
which meant that I could say,
"Well, I'll email you the details."
That casual.
He said, "Okay." I then had his email address.
He gave me his email address.
I'd triumphed over this fear of rejection,
this fear of being in the moment.
I had his email address.
And then this final moment,
where we seemed to level out.
Up to now, I'd been his crazed, desperate fan.
And then, just as I was leaving, he said,
"Oh, do I know you from something?"
And I said, in as quiet
and modest a way possible,
"I sort of do this small pop show
on Channel 4.
"But it's on very early in the morning.
You probably haven't seen it."
Thinking that he might say, "Of course!
"You're really funny! You're really funny!
You're really funny!"
Not, "Oh, okay," in the same tone as
my grandma when I showed her my arsehole.
But I had his email address. I went home,
and I composed the most beautiful,
funny little email.
Six friends confirmed,
it was a beautiful, funny email.
I pressed send,
and this is very much the end of this story,
he never emailed back.
Thank you.
Ideally, in this situation,
laughter is better than pity,
but you're quite right,
it's not a funny ending, is it?
It's not funny.
He didn't email back even, you know,
even something negative
that I could do something with.
He just... Just indifferent.
Not funny, is it? It's not funny.
So, not only did he ruin my life for five years,
he's ruined this.
Fucking Martin Clunes.
It's my fault for chasing this fantasy
of this quiet, mysterious actor type.
That's what I've always gone for,
some sort of...
And I didn't know what it was.
I didn't know why I kept going for the same
sort of weird, vulnerable, quiet person.
And then I realised, it comes directly
from being about 15 years old
and watching
the teen drama My So-Called Life,
starring Jared Leto as Jordan Catalano.
You may whoop and cheer,
but that programme has left me damaged.
Everyone I've ever gone for has been
some version of Jordan Catalano.
I watched the DVD to see
what I was to do about this and, uh...
I wanted to watch the DVD to see
what it was about this character,
and I figured it was about...
It was these three things.
Number one, he has about four lines
in every episode.
Number two, he has long hair,
that sometimes falls over an eye.
And he'll tuck it behind his ear.
Which is amazing, isn't it? It's just amazing.
And the third thing is that his main
character trait is that he is dyslexic.
And that's all I've ever wanted.
A near mute
with long hair and learning difficulties.
And there's nothing wrong
with any of those things.
I don't want to offend anyone.
If that describes you in any way,
I'd like to meet you.
Recently, I went to see a play
in which there was an actor that I fancied,
because if you don't seek some therapy,
life repeats.
This time I was slightly better connected.
I knew the playwright.
We went to eat after the play.
I was sat next to the actor that I fancied.
I was talking to him about some of the things
we've discussed tonight,
that thinking makes it so,
that we can create our own reality.
And even if you don't buy into that
in a spiritual sense,
you can still see that we live in a culture
where you can order stuff online
and it comes within the next day or two.
We live like that now.
So it's frustrating not being able to order
a specific human being from the universe
and have them come towards you.
He says, "Well, what do you want?
Who do you want?"
I say - and I hadn't thought
about this for a while -
I say, "I want Jared Leto."
He then says, in that moment,
"I just did a film with Jared Leto
"where I played the younger version
of his character."
I didn't know what to do with that.
I'd only just ordered him.
He then says, out of his mouth,
"Do you want to see a sex scene I did
as the young Jared Leto?"
I say, "Yes."
He pulls out his iPhone,
shows me himself having sex
as Jared Leto, with long hair, and naked,
and I say, "Oh, that's nice."
And it's so close to the fantasy,
I don't know what to do.
That is the root fantasy.
That's the young Jared Leto.
It's even closer to the fantasy
than the actual Jared Leto, in real life now,
who, oddly, I did meet about three years ago
in Thailand at a full-moon party.
I didn't realise it was him. I thought
it was just someone who looked like him.
So I went up to him and said,
"You look a lot like Jared Leto.
Do you know who Jared Leto is?"
He said, "I am Jared Leto."
I wasn't ready for that.
So all I could manage to say was,
"Your beauty in Requiem for a Dream
detracted from the narrative."
He thanked me and walked away.
This was so close to the fantasy.
And also, there was, of course,
the fear of rejection, as there always is.
I felt there was a flirty vibe between us,
but I wasn't sure, and I have to be sure.
When I was running up the Champs-Elysee
with the people in Paris,
one of them asked if he could come back
to my hotel room that night,
'cause he said the Metro wasn't going
to be able to get him back to his hotel.
I knew he was sort of making that up,
but I didn't know.
I knew he liked me a bit, but I didn't know.
It got to the point we were in my hotel room,
both under the covers, half-naked,
and I'm still going,
"My God, but what is this?
"What is this? I don't know what this is.
What is this?"
"What is this?
My penis is in his mouth, but is he joking?"
It was too close to the fantasy,
there was a fear of rejection,
I didn't know what to do,
so I did what I always do.
I ignored him completely, became friends
with somebody he knows quite well,
and now, every Sunday,
she is teaching me piano.
It was too close to the fantasy.
It was too much for me.
I should have remembered
what my mum used to say
about how you could be or do
anything you want in this life,
because everyone you see on TV, or on film,
they all shit.
She used to say that a lot.
She would point at the television and say,
"Shit comes out of them."
"You'll be a star."
I feel like we're all damaged in a way, right?
We're all sort of damaged.
You're damaged, right? We're all damaged.
You look quite damaged. Are you damaged?
A little bit, yeah.
And I don't mind that so much.
I feel like that's where
the good stuff comes from.
The only reason comedy exists
is because we have tragedy.
That's the way it works.
Tragedy plus time equals comedy.
Although that's not the...
I realised what the formula really should be,
is tragedy plus time plus joke.
You can't just be involved
in horrific tragedy
and wait.
And I feel special in some way,
if I feel broken.
If I'm broken, there's a journey to be healed.
There's a journey to be fixed.
I feel like I'm an interesting,
unique human being.
In the meaninglessness of it all,
I feel unique, I feel special.
I like that I've got an osteopath appointment
once a month,
where I go because I've got bad posture,
something happened in my past,
and I guess this man is healing me
each month,
bringing me to some sort of neutral state,
some pure, neutral state.
And I asked him,
because he's quite a sensitive, sweet man,
"Why did I end up with bad posture?
"Is it because when I was a kid,
I was quite shy
"and ended up trying to make myself
invisible from the other children
"and ended up all hunched over
and scared?"
And even though what I do now
is extrovert,
still inside, I'm the same scared, crying child.
I said, "What's wrong with me?
Why would that happen to me?
"What's wrong with me?"
And he said, "You have
very tight hamstrings."
"Yeah, but isn't it more
that I'm a genius recluse? Isn't that the..."
He said, "No, the tendons behind your knees
are quite restricted."
"Yeah, but isn't that just the
physical manifestation of a tortured soul?"
"No, it's your legs."
Similarly, I got ill a few weeks ago,
and this happened the day before.
I've got a cat. Obviously I've got a cat.
I really thought the cat
would end my loneliness.
It has only become a mascot
for my loneliness.
Because if anyone does come round, they go,
"Oh, you've got a cat. Are you quite lonely?
"What's he called?" "Solitude."
I woke up, and the cat had peed on my bed.
Because I was still half asleep,
I ended up putting my hand in the cat's pee.
I then went to grab the cat
to put its head in its pee.
Not as an act of revenge.
My mum had just told me
that's how you teach it not to do it again.
It doesn't work. It doesn't remember
the great moral lesson of Tuesday.
It just ends up with a head
covered in its own pee,
wandering around, wondering how
that could have happened.
In the process of grabbing the cat,
the cat scratched my hand,
the same hand where the pee was.
There was then some blood
coming out of my hand
and maybe some pee
getting into my bloodstream.
And I thought, "I've got cat AIDS."
I tried not to think that,
because I believe that thinking makes it so.
I woke up the next morning
and I couldn't stop vomiting into my toilet.
So violent was the vomit coming out of me,
it was going into my toilet,
it was all around the toilet as well,
sort of spattering all over the floor,
my cat came, put my head in the vomit.
I felt so weak and thin and pale.
I saw myself in the mirror,
I thought, "He's hot."
On the way to the doctor, I wondered,
"Should I mention
what happened with the cat?"
I felt a bit embarrassed about it,
but I thought it could be relevant,
it could be relevant
to what's happened this morning.
I got there, I told him about the vomiting,
and I said, "I don't know if this is anything,
"but my cat yesterday peed on my bed,
"some of it got on my hand
and then there was some blood."
I said, "I don't know...
I've heard about cat AIDS?"
She looked at me in a way that I thought
doctors were trained not to look at patients.
"Uh, no, there's no way
you could have cat AIDS.
"You're not a cat."
You all right? You having fun?
You're quite thin, aren't you?
What's your name? Colin!
Okay. Colin... What, wait... Colin? Caitlin?
Cathal.
Go on, one more.
Cathal.
Cathal.
I still don't know what his name is.
What... Connor?
- Cathal.
- Cathal!
Cohil?
C- O-H-I-L?
Oh, yeah, laugh at the idiot Englishman.
Yeah.
Yeah. I'm trying my best. I'm being polite.
Yeah, go on, spell it, yeah.
C- O-T-K-H-I...
Hang on! I'm speaking to Cohil.
He can do it, even though
he may have some dyslexia issues.
Let's hope. Let's hope so. Let's hope so.
Go on, then.
C- A-T-H-A-L.
C- A-T-H-A-L.
That's pretty fucked-up, huh?
I'm Simon.
I think that went quite well, don't you?
Oh, God. What the hell was I talking about?
Oh, yeah. I remember.
I bloody remember. I can do this.
The main problem is that we feel like
we're living into the future.
Really what we're doing
is living into the past.
We're constantly repeating
moments from the past,
hoping for better endings.
Whenever I'm with my family,
I feel like if I could just heal the past,
maybe then I can live in possibility,
maybe then the future could be a blank page
where anything could happen.
Until that point, I feel like I'm going to repeat
moments from the past.
It was recently my grandpa's birthday party,
his 70th birthday party,
at this restaurant in Essex.
Everyone was there,
apart from my brother's girlfriend,
who he's been with for about four years.
She was not there, on account of
a couple of the family members
having a problem with her not being a Jew.
We mustn't judge them for this.
This is just because...
It's just because they personally have
a very strong belief in racism, so...
And that's their belief. What can you do?
There's nothing you can do.
You're very lucky in Ireland.
I don't suppose you've ever had any sort of
religious conflict or anything, you know...
It's a nightmare. It's a nightmare.
You can't imagine.
You can't imagine, Dublin.
That's their belief.
And, you know, we mustn't judge them
because they live in Essex,
where there's not much to do,
and so there's a lot more time for racism.
I live in London now.
God, if I had the time, but...
Every day, I'm walking through Oxford Street,
I see people from ethnic minorities
and think, "I should do something,"
but I'm so busy, you know.
And I... You know, it's unfair of me
to just be on this stage attacking them.
They have their perspective.
They were just trying
to protect their children.
They saw it... From their perspective,
it was a bad example to their children
'cause they could end up marrying gentiles,
then their children's children
wouldn't be Jewish,
then they wouldn't be able to go
to a Jewish school,
and then where would they learn paranoia?
So...
And nobody's ever caused a drama
about this in the family.
We just sort of try to keep the peace
and we try not to say anything about it,
because it's genuinely believed in this
family that when my mum got divorced,
which was quite a drama, it was the direct
reason for my grandpa becoming diabetic.
So no one's allowed to say anything,
so they say these sort of
awful, offensive things,
and I'm sat there going, "My God, if this
was being televised, people would boo you."
And then, near the end of the dinner,
because I've been on a few courses
to try and make my life happier,
I say to these members of my family, in as
sort of sweet and polite a way as possible,
"Isn't it a shame that my brother
couldn't bring his girlfriend tonight?
"It's sort of a shame.
Isn't it sort of a shame?"
And they get quite defensive, of course,
and say, "Well, why isn't she here?
"We thought she would be here.
Why isn't she here?"
And I say, "Oh, isn't it... I don't know.
"Isn't it because of that time
that you said, 'She can't be here'?"
I say... I ask, "Just explain to me
why is the belief more important
"than the feelings of a human being?"
And it's so sad, 'cause she's a brunette.
She could pass.
And then my brother comes over
and just starts swearing at them,
and it becomes a bit intense, and I say,
"Oh, no, it's all right. Calm down.
"I've been on a course, and..."
And my grandpa... This is just the point
where the cake is supposed to come.
We should be singing happy birthday,
and now my grandpa is crying,
partly because of the drama that I've created,
but partly 'cause he can't eat the cake.
And, uh... Yeah, it's a tricky business.
The whole thing's a tricky business.
It is then suggested that we all go back
to my mum's house and resolve this.
And I feel very awkward
about the whole thing
because we don't have drama in this family,
and now I've created one,
and I've got to resolve it.
We've got to have this whole debate
about who's right and who's wrong.
And I used to... As a child, I was quite into
debate and opinions,
and now I just feel like debate and politics
is the opposite of truth,
the opposite of beauty, the opposite of joy.
When I was younger I went to see
the Vanessa Feltz talk show being filmed.
There's nothing we can do.
It happened. It happened.
The subject up for debate that day was,
"Should I murder my husband?"
At the beginning of the show,
the floor manager told us
that the best opinion of today
will win a bottle of champagne.
So there's everything to play for.
Should she or shouldn't she
murder her husband?
Twenty minutes go by and people say
some very interesting things,
and I, at about 14 years old,
stand up and say,
"I think you shouldn't murder your husband
'cause you could go to prison."
And I won a bottle of champagne.
And whether it's a lowbrow,
stupid, daytime-TV-show debate like that,
or a highbrow Question Time
political debate,
it's the same inane, nonsensical,
cyclical, boring topics,
and we go round and round in circles
debating the same things
over and over again.
Somehow we take out logic and
prior knowledge from our collective minds.
And I think it's quite similar
to what happened to me
when I did magic mushrooms
a few years ago.
Somehow, I was able to say to my friend,
on mushrooms -
and I think it's this sort of conversation
that we're all constantly having
that stops us from progressing at the speed
that we perhaps could -
isn't it odd how, when you say to someone,
"Oh, do you want to meet up
for some dinner next Thursday?",
the dinner is a lie.
What you're really saying is,
"It'd be nice to meet up with you.
I haven't seen you for a while."
Why do we have to have this dinner cover?
How do you know how hungry
you're going to be on Thursday?
Why can't we just say,
"It'd be nice to meet up with you"?
And there should be a place
where you could just meet,
the meeting place, an indoor place,
where you walk in and you sit down,
there's nothing, just chairs,
and you sit down and you look at each other
and you meet, and it's truthful,
it's authentic, it's beautiful.
And then I thought,
after about half an hour there
you could get a bit hungry.
And I invented the restaurant.
So I didn't want to have this debate
with my family,
who was right and who was wrong.
Very difficult thing.
We have to continue to debate things
because there is no truth,
there's only perspective.
And their perspective was
that it was a terrible misunderstanding,
and the one time they did meet her,
she hadn't said hello to them.
And I had to explain that she was
the shy, new guest coming into this family.
We are hosting her.
We have to say hello first.
That's how it works.
I don't know if I only know that
from presenting TV shows
where you start with,
"Hello, and welcome to the show."
You don't stare at the audience.
I had to explain it to them
like they were children.
I said, "Why can't we learn from Lumiere,
"the candlestick holder
from Beauty and the Beast?"
"Who sang Be Our Guest, Be Our Guest,
not Is She a Jew?"
But this is unfair, because I realised
in everything that I was saying
what was underneath my words
was essentially,
"Why can't you just be less judgemental,
and more like me?"
Which is judgemental.
And arrogant, to try and change
somebody else's perspective
just so that the world
can seem better for you.
It's important that we have
these contrasts in life.
Nothing ever got created
from things being the same.
It's from the contrasts in life
that anything happens.
I realised in the end that all I could do,
I couldn't change them,
all I could was change
my perspective on them,
and then move on with my life.
All you can really do in your life
is change yourself, and that's hard enough.
I really wanted to change myself
a lot last year,
because I felt I wasn't getting enough sex.
And that's a fun thing to do,
it's a shame not to have more of it.
And the reason I wasn't...
The reason I wasn't achieving
the getting of more sex
was because I would see somebody
at a party that I really liked
and I'd think,
"Gosh, well, he seems just about perfect.
"Like, who knows what could happen?
"I could end up spending
the rest of my life with him."
And what I would do every time,
to woo him, to beshoe him,
to make him see that I was the one for him,
is I would go home
and hope that I saw him again.
Because for me to go up to someone
and say, "Hello, what's your name?"...
Perfectly lovely question,
"Hello, what's your name?"
Nothing wrong with that question,
"Hello, what's your name?"
It's a delightful, curious question,
but to me, it would definitely come out like,
"Hello. What's your name?"
Also, I developed a paranoia
for talking to anyone
because I felt like,
if the chat-up didn't go well,
they would then have a story
to tell their friends about.
This came from being
at the Edinburgh Comedy Festival
and somebody coming up to me
and reminding me of a gig
that we'd done together.
I said, "I remember the gig.
"I went on a few dates with a poet
who was on that show."
And he said, "Yes, that's my friend."
And he said that in a kind of smug way,
like he knew something about me.
And I said, "Do you know
something about me?"
And he said, "Yes."
He then told me that his friend had told him
that when we were having sex,
and his friend climaxed, I said...
"Well done."
I think it's 'cause it took him a while.
It's not my catchphrase.
So I couldn't talk to people.
I couldn't talk to people.
And then I saw the film Waking Life.
I don't know if you've seen it,
but one line stood out for me.
"Actual self-awareness is the knowledge
"that you are a character
in someone else's dream."
I love this idea that it could all be a dream,
and it's somebody else's dream.
I makes everything so silly.
There's no need to fear anything,
no need to feel anxious about anything.
It's all a dream.
And if you're playing a character,
and that character isn't serving you,
that shy, anxious character
who can't talk to people,
let go of the character.
Become a different character.
I was out with a friend of mine,
walking through the streets of north London
on a Sunday afternoon a few months ago,
and in the time that we were together,
he got the phone numbers
of about four different girls.
His thing is he's able to go up to girls
and say, "Hello. What's your name?"
They exchange phone numbers,
and then later, they have sex.
That's a better system than mine.
I said, "You've got to do this for me."
He then spots this guy
that I'd been looking at.
And before I can run away,
scared of what might occur,
he just saunters up to this guy
and says, "Hello, young man."
"You look like a fun chap.
What are you up to today in your life?"
And this young student guy says,
"I'm... I'm meeting some friends in the park."
And my friend says,
"Well, we must join you."
And for some reason,
this guy doesn't say, "Why?"
I think it's 'cause my friend said, "we must",
and so he just went, "Oh, well,
if you're in charge of the world, okay."
'Cause that's what my friend's
putting out there.
His character is he can grab
someone from the universe,
throw them in his hot tub and fuck them.
We're now sat in this park with these people,
and everyone's acting very nonchalant,
like it's a normal thing to have happened.
But at least in my head, I'm screaming,
"But we're all strangers!"
I try to chat up the one that I like.
I say, "You look like the cool one
in the group."
Because I don't know how to talk to humans.
The only way I can cope, it seems,
is if I imagine I'm conducting a TV interview.
"Well, you're the cool one,
and who dresses you?
"And thank you for coming in today.
And now Lady Gaga."
Who I don't trust.
So my friend then rescues me
from my character
and says, "Why don't you two
exchange phone numbers now?
"We must move on with our lives."
So we do exchange phone numbers,
because he's told us to.
We walk away, and I acknowledge that
what's happened has been quite special.
Generally in life, we feel we're in control,
but we're just like ants, wandering around,
hoping to avoid bumping into each other,
as humans, hoping to avoid doing anything
that might embarrass us.
And this was a moment of grabbing
a moment from the universe without any fear.
We're not in control of our lives.
You're not in control of your lives.
I'm aware that half the people in here
are only in here
because the person next to you likes me.
Maybe more than half. Maybe...
And I'm not in control of my life,
even being here tonight.
It's just that something happened
in my childhood,
where there was a moment of fear,
I responded with something funny
and that worked,
so I carried on with that
and now I'm here talking to you
into a microphone, which I don't need.
Just 'cause it gives the impression
I'm definitely a stand-up comedian.
Otherwise, I'm just a man standing.
And unless you grab these moments,
life just is cyclical and it is repetitive.
Do you know what I was thinking about
when I was in the toilet the other morning?
"Again?" It's always the same, isn't it?
Once, about six years ago,
I had a green shit. Once.
And it looked at me, as if to say,
"Perhaps everything will be different now."
It wasn't.
Goatee beard, huh?
You think that's going to help?
So, you know, you think,
you shave that bit and that bit and...
We're all still going to die.
So I asked my friend.
I said, "What do you want me to do now?
"Should I text him next week
and see what he's up to?"
He said, "No. Just text him now
and see what he's doing tonight."
I said, "This is a bit keen.
We just walked away.
"Shouldn't I play hard-to-get a bit?"
He said, "No, you don't play hard-to-get.
You just picked someone up in a park."
And he was right.
This stupid game, based on fear,
that we play, this hard-to-get game,
we don't play it in any other area of our lives.
You're in a supermarket and you think,
"Oh, I quite fancy a potato,"
you don't go,
"Oh, best to avoid eye contact."
You grab the potato, you bloody eat it.
The only difference between a potato
and a human being is the fear of rejection.
That's not the only difference. Um...
Everything's a choice between fear and love.
We may as well choose love,
because death is coming.
Death is coming.
Death is coming.
That's my catchphrase.
So I texted him, there and then,
because death is coming.
And he was free that night.
He was free that night.
We were then going on this date, that night.
We'd met that day.
We're going on this date, that night.
I feel alive. I feel like I'm living
some sort of dreamlike existence.
My friend then gives me tips
on how to have sex with him that evening.
Because that is what this is about.
This is about grabbing this moment
from the universe,
without any judgement, without fear.
We still judge ourselves on sex.
And we add so much meaning to it,
as we add meaning to everything in our lives.
Sex can just be fun. It can just be fun.
It can just be fun.
No one ever says,
"Oh, you're playing all that tennis.
"Where's it leading?"
"Did you enjoy your tennis game?"
"Oh, it was just meaningless, wasn't it?
It was just..."
It's joyful.
His tips were, "Don't talk about the past.
"Don't discuss the future.
This is just about this moment.
"Just keep saying the words 'spontaneous'
and 'adventure'."
Spontaneous. Adventure.
"Aren't we spontaneous?
What an adventure we've been on today.
"We met today and we spontaneously
decided to be here right now.
"What an adventure it has been,
"and what an adventure
it could continue to be.
"Aren't you spontaneous?
Aren't I spontaneous?
"When was the last time
you did something spontaneous?
"We're so adventurous.
What an adventure this is."
It worked.
He taught me two things that day.
One, some confidence, 'cause why be timid?
Death is coming.
And two, hypnosis.
I feel like now we can just have
anything we want in our lives,
and the only thing to fear is death,
and that's happening anyway.
The real problem, I find,
is that we're getting older,
and we have to be here for that.
I turned 30 last year, and it was
a bit of a crisis leading up to it,
culminating in this.
I was at the theatre and I saw somebody
who turned out to be 18.
Okay? So he was 18. All right? He was 18.
But he was so thin.
And he was with a woman
who turned out to be his mother,
but she, it turned out, was a fan of mine.
So that's good.
She likes my work, I like her son. Great.
Also, I've worked really hard
since about the age of 14
to get to wherever the hell I am today,
so if she's taken any enjoyment
from my work,
I think I've earned her child.
We get talking, and they're delightfully
uber-middle class,
and I'm from Essex, and this feels like
a moment where I've arrived.
We're talking about the play,
we're talking about poetry,
we're having a wonderful time.
I don't like to caricature,
'cause it feels crude and untrue.
I wouldn't say this if it wasn't the case.
He is speaking in that stereotypical way
we imagine posh people speak,
like that sort of, "Fa-fa-fa..."
Like that, "Wa-wa-wa-wa..."
He's actually speaking like that.
Like there's no need for him
to be able to speak,
like his mouth is full of pound coins,
I don't know what it is.
But I'm really having a lovely time
with both of them,
and then after the play
I meet up with just him outside the theatre.
We're sat on the steps of this theatre.
It's about 11:30 in the evening,
there's a frisson between us,
there's romance in the air,
and then his mother comes around
the corner and I feel awkward.
I think, "Oh, gosh, the mother must love him
and is protective of him."
And she just says to him,
"Okay, goodbye, darling. See you later."
Leaves me with her son.
So I thought, "Well, she's given him to me."
So I took him... Um...
He actually took me to this restaurant
that he knew. It was his area.
We went to this late-night restaurant.
We spoke for two hours.
And he's actually much more mature
than you'd imagine, for 18,
much more intelligent
than you'd imagine, for 18,
and all those other things
that people like me say.
We started meeting up
for these kind of dates.
They weren't defined as such,
but they were essentially dates,
and eventually I invited him back to my flat.
I felt strange and torn about inviting him.
I wasn't sure if it'd be a bit too much for him.
And I'm not very good
at making the first move,
like in terms of the first kiss.
I'm not very good at that.
And I thought I would have to,
'cause I'm the responsible adult here.
And then we were sat
for, like, three hours on my sofa,
just talking and talking,
and I couldn't quite make the move.
I felt just awkward about it,
I wasn't sure what...
And it was hard for him as well,
'cause he's straight, so it was difficult.
But everything is seemingly leading
towards this kiss.
We're edging closer to each other, subtly,
on the sofa.
And at one point, I realised I had to kiss him
because I found myself fiddling with his hair.
And I thought,
"Well, I've got to do the kiss now,"
because that's a precursor to a kiss.
If you don't then do the kiss,
you're just a weirdo who likes hair.
"Oh, it's been lovely
touching your hair this evening."
"Let yourself out."
So I leaned in, and I kissed him on the lips,
and said, "I've just kissed you on the lips."
"Is that okay?"
And he said,
"Oh, yeah, that's fine, that's fine."
And in that moment I won seven pounds
I leaned in again, I kissed him again.
I said, "I've just kissed you
on the lips again,"
because kids love repetition.
But really we were having a laugh
about it ourselves.
Like, I kept sort of... You know, I tried to
make it fun. I was making him laugh.
He really liked...
I kept doing, "Who is it? It's me."
He really... He loved that. Loved it.
And actually, it was a really
lovely experience for both of us.
Don't regret any of it. It was like a
wonderful, beautiful, sensual evening,
and there's no...
I don't feel any shame or regret about it.
If there's one thing... There's one thing
that makes me feel slightly odd about it,
and it is that he did describe
what we had done afterwards
as "rumbly-tumbly".
"Well, obviously, a bit nervous at first,
but in the end, lovely bit of rumbly-tumbly."
Now, I... Look, it's not ideal,
being with an 18-year-old.
Nothing we could do about the fact
that he was 18.
Nothing we could do about the fact
that if I'd met him five weeks before,
he would have been 17. Nothing we can do,
nothing the police can do.
No one can do anything.
And I realise now that, as well as it being
a worry about getting older,
it was also an attempt to heal the past.
When I was 18, at that stage
it seemed impossible
to be with another 18-year-old,
so this was a moment of trying to heal
that broken moment from the past.
The great lesson in all of this
came a few months ago.
I'd received a big bill
for something to do with my flat,
and it was really frustrating,
and it felt like an injustice.
It was like this just stupid, boring bill,
and there was nothing I could do about it.
And I was really annoyed by it,
and then I got in this minicab
and started telling the cab driver about it.
He said to me, "Well, is there anything
you can do about this bill?"
And I said, "No, there's nothing I can do.
It's a real injustice."
And he said, "Acceptance."
"What do you mean,
whispering, wise cab driver?"
And he explained so absurdly simply that if
there's nothing you can do about something,
then you do nothing.
And in that moment, the feeling of injustice,
the frustration, it was lifted, it was gone.
There was nothing to do.
I realised I'd made it up.
I'd made it up that it was an injustice,
I'd made up the frustration, it was all a s
印象深刻的有三个点,一个是Simon讲自己暗恋的演员的脆弱性如何被保护,而自己的脆弱性如何要求被克服:
And I think the difference between us, because I think we are both quiet and shy as children, but he retained that shyness, it makes him beautiful and sensitive and I decided that shyness is something to be overcome.
And I think it's our training. He went to a really good acting school in London where he sort of nourish his sensitivity, to nurture his vulnerability and that's what makes him a great actor. I went to a Saturday morning stage school in Essex where we were told, whether we were singing, dancing or acting, just do it loud.
二是他放下为自己讲述/编造的故事:
If there's nothing you can do about something, then you do nothing. And in that moment, the feeling of injustice, the frustration, it was lifted, it was gone. There was nothing to do. I realize I made it up. It was all a story. And it's the same with the past. You can't change the past, no need to heal it. It's only a story you've created, all you can do is let go of the story. You can't change yourself, all you can do is let go the story of who you are, let go of the character you've created from fear. You can't change other people, all you can do is let go of your limited perspectives of them.”
最后,跟Rent主题契合的一点,爱还是恐惧:
This stupid game based on fear that we play this hard to get game. Everything is a choice between fear and love. We may as well choose love because death is coming. This is about grabbing this moment from universe, without any judgement, without fear.
看Simon的stand-up comedy等同用笑话消解自己的伤痛。Simon单恋过Ben,相仿的瘦削和脆弱,于是戏称narcissism;我想,爱上Simon,我也是自恋狂。
但很大不同的一点是,好像从来没有这么直白地袒露自己,就算曾不遗余力地写下些什么东西,都通过抽象变得隐晦、疏离。接收到如此近似心声的表达令我猝不及防,向来视“自己”的一切那么偶然,厌弃任何以他验对我进行惯有的解释,便陷入了碎片的身份,却发现了替这份模糊感正名的另一位实实在在的人。
我理应是兴奋的,那些关于偶然的执拗信念,不经意流放的狡黠的审视,难以平衡的存在,都是真实的……
发现问题所在了吗,多悲哀呀,越是与异己的世界剥离,越是渴求异己的那一份证据,来肯定自己,认同自己,于是越发意识到孤独。其实也影影绰绰地感受到这个死循环了,只不过迄今最不缺的就是“期待”了。
我要打五星半!如果A Bit Of Laurie And Fry不合时宜的人参杯具加上Miranda单身者囧囧的自得其乐加嗡嗡鸡的毒舌火力集中在一人身上加上一点《苏菲的世界》加上一点点佛家和很多的脆弱,就是彩蛋和包袱绝妙百出!如果你是个awkward的人,超级有共鸣啊。而且结构上无可挑剔地精彩!实话哦~
stand-up comedy。相信我,这不是你所认为的那种脱口秀。分分钟鼻子发酸,从心尖儿涌起的共鸣感绝对吓退内心蠢蠢欲动的小恶魔。你为什么哭了?我,我有太多的洗脸池了。
想象一下美国电视里那种戒酒AA协会的感觉,大家都是damaged,有个人说了一个小时精彩的自我介绍,就是这个小哥。
看了三遍,像心理治疗,好有共鸣
地球人都知道卷毛暗恋小ben
台下的观众们太丧心病狂了,Simon在讲理想型的时候,你们怎么能笑成这样,没人性啊!从头到尾觉得自己浑身都是枪眼,就算笑得最疯的地方也满眼都是泪,太心酸了QAQ最虐的是,为什么Jared Leto作为life ruiner可以随便说出口,但XX就必须只能是XX啊,哭瞎_(:з」∠)_长得太像Jesse了。
最感同身受的是巴黎夜奔那段,“别的人都在享受当下,我却在想‘这会是个不错的回忆’”,天啊一模一样。我想这场秀是告诉内向型人,你有权利这么活,不需要做任何改变。(ps,没搞到男神但搞到了18岁粉丝,一种补偿(((
倘若有什么能一次性征服我,那么这个stand-up live绝对是其中之一。他的自嘲和自省,让他的笑话不再仅仅是笑话,而是成为了他内在的个人气质。让人笑,让人陪他伤心。让孤独的人找到了另一个孤独的灵魂。
实在太棒了。完全整场就是在聊哲学啊!各种感同身受,小心肝被戳成筛子了好吗。这么说我内心其实是个gay么。。。他说到他的邮件小本没回的时候我眼眶都酸了呜呜呜。另外。他学小本说话腔调也太bloody像了吧!
不同于单纯的搞笑段子,整个就是卷毛的血泪史和奇妙的人格铸就的!
所有以笑话的形式讲出的loneliness, awkwardness, bitterness都带来深深的共鸣感。“It has to be funny, we must laugh or we would cry”
http://www.tudou.com/programs/view/bfVMR9QVV3o/
一边笑一边伤心,最后还差点哭出来。。。Best wishes to you, my dear Simon.
第一场Stand up表演看了让我想哭,作为一个同样尴尬的人,太感同身受以至于我笑不出来
Tragedy plus time equals comedy
这么丧,简直像豆瓣吉祥物。😂
虽然那谁……你不回邮件是有点伤人吧,但是作为看客我也晓得那是一种风格。自我保护的风格。其实这场秀里Simon感动人的地方,也在于那点藏起来的vulnerability。
Simon 在BBC的《单口喜剧的艺术》中指出伍迪艾伦开创了焦虑式情感喜剧模式,在《Do Nothing》中,他延续并挖掘了性恐惧、犹太人情境等主题,不同的是,伍迪的自嘲是真戏假作,骨子里一派得意;Simon的自嘲方式是垂下双眼的假戏真做,“接受不能改变的事情”,是哭是笑,听众自己选择。
Never Mind the Buzzcocks组的成员共同嘲笑的对象除了Cold Play外就是Robin Williams了吧哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈"and I won a bottle of champagne"
没字幕果然有点累 看小萌神之外还有一点想法 我们在不停地焦虑昨天和明天 但是昨天是我捏造出来的一个屁,明天在抱怨我只顾着害怕没空搭理他。唯一的焦虑应该是 死亡的大轮迟早要逼近。所以没表白的赶紧表白没出柜的赶紧出柜(果然) 生活慌慌张张的走过,而对于这一点我们真的做不了太多。